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Post by Mad Dog on Aug 3, 2008 11:37:35 GMT -5
In her book "Little White Lies, Deep dark Secrets" Susan Shapiro Barash asserts that women are at least as likely or more likely to have extra marital affairs as men do. Where as men are much more likely to get caught because of a general need to brag about their conquests, women tend to keep that information close to the breast (pun intended). She also asserts that women are inherently better liars than men because of stigmas and stereotypes placed on them and most times even lie to close friends about their infidelity. She goes on to say that most men are totally clueless too their womans dalliances. What do you think about these claims?
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Post by scooterfanatic on Aug 3, 2008 11:50:01 GMT -5
All women are whores
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Post by Mad Dog on Aug 3, 2008 11:57:55 GMT -5
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Post by Allyson on Aug 3, 2008 18:06:07 GMT -5
I'm a bit conflicted about that argument. I find that men are more likely to cheat on their women because they often don't think about consequences of certain actions before they partake in them. Plus men naturally want to fornicate more to spread their genes while women are programmed to stay home take care of the family. I will agree that men get caught more because they aren't sly enough to keep it hidden. I must be an exception to scooterfanatic's rule, because I am a faithful woman. Buuuut if I ever were to cheat on my man I would definitely keep it a secret. There is no way anyone would find that information about me. I would rather lie and keep a secret for the rest of my life than admit to being unfaithful.
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Post by FUCKTARD ! on Aug 3, 2008 19:28:11 GMT -5
In my personal experience women are 500% more likely to cheat than men.
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Post by wingospagettio on Aug 3, 2008 20:13:10 GMT -5
In my personal experience women are 500% more likely to cheat than men. So you are saying that 5 women you were with cheated on you, while you only cheated once? Or were you the other guy that the women were cheating with? If I ever cheated, my wife would be able to pick up on it. I'd be moppy and regretful and would eventually spill the beans. |
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Post by wingospagettio on Aug 3, 2008 20:16:21 GMT -5
China Love ad banner is getting me turned on. Damn you evil temptresses!  |
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Post by potthole on Aug 3, 2008 22:14:53 GMT -5
I've got to agree with FUCKTARD (in sentiment, not percentage). I've never cheated, but had a girlfriend that did.
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Post by FUCKTARD ! on Aug 3, 2008 23:29:52 GMT -5
In my personal experience women are 500% more likely to cheat than men. So you are saying that 5 women you were with cheated on you, while you only cheated once? Or were you the other guy that the women were cheating with? If I ever cheated, my wife would be able to pick up on it. I'd be moppy and regretful and would eventually spill the beans. Perhaps. And perhaps the one woman I was with cheated on me 5 times Or pehaps women are more likely to cheat and not really consider it cheating. Seriously is a hand job cheating ? A blow job ? Him giving her oral ? what is cheating ? |
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Post by Mad Dog on Aug 4, 2008 4:25:00 GMT -5
So you are saying that 5 women you were with cheated on you, while you only cheated once? Or were you the other guy that the women were cheating with? If I ever cheated, my wife would be able to pick up on it. I'd be moppy and regretful and would eventually spill the beans. Perhaps. And perhaps the one woman I was with cheated on me 5 times Or pehaps women are more likely to cheat and not really consider it cheating. Seriously is a hand job cheating ? A blow job ? Him giving her oral ? what is cheating ? Hey FUCKTARD, you don't have to answer this, but may I ask how you found out? |
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Post by FUCKTARD ! on Aug 4, 2008 5:02:13 GMT -5
Perhaps. And perhaps the one woman I was with cheated on me 5 times Or pehaps women are more likely to cheat and not really consider it cheating. Seriously is a hand job cheating ? A blow job ? Him giving her oral ? what is cheating ? Hey FUCKTARD, you don't have to answer this, but may I ask how you found out? She called me and told me |
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Post by Queenie on Aug 4, 2008 9:59:15 GMT -5
Yep and I'm their Queen!!  |
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Post by Queenie on Aug 4, 2008 10:09:47 GMT -5
I am definitely with you on this one Allyson!! I don't even look at other men . . except in movies. But I seriously love my husband and will always be faithful. I have even been in a really bad relationship and never cheated. I've been cheated on and I can tell you first hand that when I caught them, it was the worst feeling I have ever had. I would NEVER do that to anybody and if you have any inkling of a heart, you wouldn't either. But I didn't let it keep me down and I don't think that all men are cheaters either. I think that most people that cheat on their spouses don't have any self-esteem . . . or morals . . . or self-respect . . . or character . . . and they shouldn't be allowed to exist. If you want to be with someone else, have the balls to tell who you are with before you go out and eff around.
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Post by Mad Dog on Aug 4, 2008 16:21:40 GMT -5
I am definitely with you on this one Allyson!! I don't even look at other men . . except in movies. But I seriously love my husband and will always be faithful. I have even been in a really bad relationship and never cheated. I've been cheated on and I can tell you first hand that when I caught them, it was the worst feeling I have ever had. I would NEVER do that to anybody and if you have any inkling of a heart, you wouldn't either. But I didn't let it keep me down and I don't think that all men are cheaters either. I think that most people that cheat on their spouses don't have any self-esteem . . . or morals . . . or self-respect . . . or character . . . and they shouldn't be allowed to exist. If you want to be with someone else, have the balls to tell who you are with before you go out and eff around. I'm with you Queen, If you want out, get out before, not after. Some people want to know they've got a sure thing in the bag before they let the other person know. And I'm sure some see cheating as a challenge, but it is so hurtful all around |
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Post by Mad Dog on Aug 4, 2008 16:23:48 GMT -5
How ever if there are any cheaters out there, Feel free to chime in.
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Post by zanessweater on Aug 4, 2008 19:08:05 GMT -5
I'm not a "cheater" but I certainly can look at another man and think "yumm-mie!". Married or not, I will always be a flirt, and I think I will always be attracted to other dudes. But that definitely does not mean I'm going to hop on the next stick pony that I think is hot enough; I have more self respect than that. I think what it boils down to, male or female, is that cheaters are mainly cowards. Either they're afraid of leaving the one they're with and making a wrong decision, or they're afraid of the confrontation and think they can get a free dip without getting caught with chocolate on their faces.
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Post by flyersfantn on Aug 5, 2008 8:57:37 GMT -5
I'm not a "cheater" but I certainly can look at another man and think "yumm-mie!". Married or not, I will always be a flirt, and I think I will always be attracted to other dudes. But that definitely does not mean I'm going to hop on the next stick pony that I think is hot enough; I have more self respect than that. I think what it boils down to, male or female, is that cheaters are mainly cowards. Either they're afraid of leaving the one they're with and making a wrong decision, or they're afraid of the confrontation and think they can get a free dip without getting caught with chocolate on their faces. Whore. |
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Post by Queenie on Aug 5, 2008 12:00:21 GMT -5
I'm not a "cheater" but I certainly can look at another man and think "yumm-mie!". Married or not, I will always be a flirt, and I think I will always be attracted to other dudes. But that definitely does not mean I'm going to hop on the next stick pony that I think is hot enough; I have more self respect than that. I think what it boils down to, male or female, is that cheaters are mainly cowards. Either they're afraid of leaving the one they're with and making a wrong decision, or they're afraid of the confrontation and think they can get a free dip without getting caught with chocolate on their faces. Whore. -1 Not called for |
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Post by wienerpoopie on Aug 5, 2008 12:09:54 GMT -5
Whore. -1 Not called for I think the “ ” means he was kidding |
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Post by flyersfantn on Aug 5, 2008 12:54:57 GMT -5
Whore. -1 Not called for -1 for not getting the joke, idiot. |
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Post by Queenie on Aug 6, 2008 11:30:27 GMT -5
-1 for not getting the joke, idiot.  |
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Post by brytn on Aug 6, 2008 11:47:02 GMT -5
I go every year on a big golf trip to Myrtle Beach with a bunch of guys. About 80-90. Every year a certain percentage of the guys go out get hookers, pick up women at bars, etc. Keep in mind almost all of them are married. I have always been stunned at this. The other thing is that the women they hire/pickup are almost always un-attractive. I guess their motto is any port in a storm.
I was beginning to think these guys were the norm. Good to know I am not the only one that is loyal.
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Post by Queenie on Aug 6, 2008 13:40:49 GMT -5
I go every year on a big golf trip to Myrtle Beach with a bunch of guys. About 80-90. Every year a certain percentage of the guys go out get hookers, pick up women at bars, etc. Keep in mind almost all of them are married. I have always been stunned at this. The other thing is that the women they hire/pickup are almost always un-attractive. I guess their motto is any port in a storm. I was beginning to think these guys were the norm. Good to know I am not the only one that is loyal. +1 ;D |
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Post by plungerhand on Aug 6, 2008 13:43:15 GMT -5
I go every year on a big golf trip to Myrtle Beach with a bunch of guys. About 80-90. Every year a certain percentage of the guys go out get hookers, pick up women at bars, etc. Keep in mind almost all of them are married. I have always been stunned at this. The other thing is that the women they hire/pickup are almost always un-attractive. I guess their motto is any port in a storm. I was beginning to think these guys were the norm. Good to know I am not the only one that is loyal. (drop) You sound like a gay(drop) No really, my job used to send me out of town a lot and I have seen the same thing. I don't know why people like that even marry. |
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Post by Howie Feltersnatch on Aug 6, 2008 13:53:25 GMT -5
I go every year on a big golf trip to Myrtle Beach with a bunch of guys. About 80-90. Every year a certain percentage of the guys go out get hookers, pick up women at bars, etc. Keep in mind almost all of them are married. I have always been stunned at this. The other thing is that the women they hire/pickup are almost always un-attractive. I guess their motto is any port in a storm. I was beginning to think these guys were the norm. Good to know I am not the only one that is loyal. (drop) You sound like a gay(drop) No really, my job used to send me out of town a lot and I have seen the same thing. I don't know why people like that even marry. I hate it when I eff up a quote |
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Post by Peachs on Aug 6, 2008 15:08:59 GMT -5
I have no argument... I've been on both ends of the cheating.. I'll be the first person to admit that I'm not perfect... I've definitely learned from my mistakes though
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Post by Mad Dog on Aug 6, 2008 16:09:42 GMT -5
I have no argument... I've been on both ends of the cheating.. I'll be the first person to admit that I'm not perfect... I've definitely learned from my mistakes though Since you have a unique perspective on this subject I have a couple of questions. Were you the one to cheat first or did it happen to you first. Second what was one of the worst consequences of being the cheater or being the victim of a cheater? Also what was the tipping point that pushed you over the edge and say," ya I think so"? |
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Post by Peachs on Aug 6, 2008 20:02:15 GMT -5
I have no argument... I've been on both ends of the cheating.. I'll be the first person to admit that I'm not perfect... I've definitely learned from my mistakes though Since you have a unique perspective on this subject I have a couple of questions. Were you the one to cheat first or did it happen to you first. Second what was one of the worst consequences of being the cheater or being the victim of a cheater? Also what was the tipping point that pushed you over the edge and say," ya I think so"? I was cheated on first. In no way am I saying that that validates my cheating. I think the worst consequence of my cheating was the trust issues that came about later, and the eventual breakdown of the relationship I was in. The worst consequence of being cheated on is that it pushed me to not care for awhile that I was afterwords unfaithful to my lover and that I was ultimately uncaring for lying to people about it... The whole experience is horrible and I don't ever want to be that person again. |
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Post by Mad Dog on Aug 7, 2008 16:00:58 GMT -5
Since you have a unique perspective on this subject I have a couple of questions. Were you the one to cheat first or did it happen to you first. Second what was one of the worst consequences of being the cheater or being the victim of a cheater? Also what was the tipping point that pushed you over the edge and say," ya I think so"? I was cheated on first. In no way am I saying that that validates my cheating. I think the worst consequence of my cheating was the trust issues that came about later, and the eventual breakdown of the relationship I was in. The worst consequence of being cheated on is that it pushed me to not care for awhile that I was afterwords unfaithful to my lover and that I was ultimately uncaring for lying to people about it... The whole experience is horrible and I don't ever want to be that person again. Whether or not it is cheating, pretty much everyone has something that they wish they could change, have a second chance at, or deeply regret. All you can do is learn, move on, and teach your children not to do the things you've done. Don't beat yourself up too much. I believe most people can learn, change, and grow. And it sounds like you have.  |
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Post by jaydethespaz on Aug 7, 2008 18:00:16 GMT -5
I've got to agree with FUCKTARD (in sentiment, not percentage). I've never cheated, but had a girlfriend that did. From a girls perspective here now. I have been cheated on by my ex WHEN I EAS 8 AND A HALF MONTHS PREGNANT WITH HIS KID! |
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