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Post by dingdongyo on Jul 15, 2008 9:21:23 GMT -5
it depends a lot on the kid, the parents, the environment, all that stuff. i watched scary movies as a kid, and they gave me nightmares. but it didn't make me violent. anytime i got really freaked out, somebody was there to run to and just not be alone with. that made me feel better. i don't know their situation well enough to predict anything, and i wouldn't share it if i did. but i'm going to give them the benefit of the doubt. she seems like a normal, funny little girl to me. |
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Post by Fistor on Jul 15, 2008 9:24:21 GMT -5
it depends a lot on the kid, the parents, the environment, all that stuff. i watched scary movies as a kid, and they gave me nightmares. but it didn't make me violent. anytime i got really freaked out, somebody was there to run to and just not be alone with. that made me feel better. i don't know their situation well enough to predict anything, and i wouldn't share it if i did. but i'm going to give them the benefit of the doubt. she seems like a normal, funny little girl to me. I think where you and I differ is this: I wouldn't let my 5 year old watch a movie if I thought it would give him a nightmare. Nightmares are utterly terrifying to little kids. I just wouldn't subject my kid to that. |
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Post by The Biff Lebowski on Jul 15, 2008 9:27:32 GMT -5
Exalt for fistor. Billy Idol gets it.
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Post by dingdongyo on Jul 15, 2008 9:36:02 GMT -5
I think where you and I differ is this: I wouldn't let my 5 year old watch a movie if I thought it would give him a nightmare. Nightmares are utterly terrifying to little kids. I just wouldn't subject my kid to that. well, i'm not a parent. this is my friend's daughter. but that's probably why our opinions differ, in any case. i have no idea whether or not she has nightmares over this movie. but i know she loves it. so much, that her mom deleted it off the dvr to get her to move on. there's curiosity, there's imagination, there's scary images, and i think there's value in a kid learning that, no matter how much it freaks them out, nightmares can't really hurt them. enough to be worth the stress? i don't know. like i said, i can only speak on my personal behalf as a kid. and i'm fine with it. nothing against you wanting to protect your child. of course you would. you're just protecting them from a movie. |
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Post by Fistor on Jul 15, 2008 9:58:25 GMT -5
I think where you and I differ is this: I wouldn't let my 5 year old watch a movie if I thought it would give him a nightmare. Nightmares are utterly terrifying to little kids. I just wouldn't subject my kid to that. well, i'm not a parent. this is my friend's daughter. but that's probably why our opinions differ, in any case. i have no idea whether or not she has nightmares over this movie. but i know she loves it. so much, that her mom deleted it off the dvr to get her to move on. there's curiosity, there's imagination, there's scary images, and i think there's value in a kid learning that, no matter how much it freaks them out, nightmares can't really hurt them. enough to be worth the stress? i don't know. like i said, i can only speak on my personal behalf as a kid. and i'm fine with it. nothing against you wanting to protect your child. of course you would. you're just protecting them from a movie. I know it's not your kid. Also, I probably would share your same stance if I were younger and didn't have kids. But the minds of children are extremely impressionable. They are sponges to everything around them. I feel it's important to try to fill their environments with as much positive stuff as possible. An R rated horror flick would not be on that list. In fact, I think that's pretty damn irresponsible, to expose a 5 year old to a movie like that. And nightmares really can screw up a kid. Not permanently, of course, but they can really mess with a kid's mind. They're not equipped to handle the same stimuli an adult can. I can still remember some of the nightmares I had when I was that age, can't you? They profoundly affect children and really shouldn't be treated lightly. |
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Post by dingdongyo on Jul 15, 2008 10:12:38 GMT -5
I know it's not your kid. Also, I probably would share your same stance if I were younger and didn't have kids. But the minds of children are extremely impressionable. They are sponges to everything around them. I feel it's important to try to fill their environments with as much positive stuff as possible. An R rated horror flick would not be on that list. In fact, I think that's pretty damn irresponsible, to expose a 5 year old to a movie like that. And nightmares really can screw up a kid. Not permanently, of course, but they can really mess with a kid's mind. They're not equipped to handle the same stimuli an adult can. I can still remember some of the nightmares I had when I was that age, can't you? They profoundly affect children and really shouldn't be treated lightly. to answer your question, yes i do remember some of those nightmares. that says something all by itself. i also remember feeling pretty stupid that it ever bothered me a couple years later. i always thought that was part of growing up. i still think the only thing you can really say in general is that it depends on a bunch of factors if the kid can handle it. in this particular case, i happen to have a lot of confidence in this mom, and i'm sure if it bothered her daughter at all to watch this movie, even though the little one really dug it, she would have gotten rid of it immediately. that's the last i'll say about it here. if you'd like to keep discussing, i'll send you a pm or something. |
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Post by Fistor on Jul 15, 2008 10:23:25 GMT -5
I know it's not your kid. Also, I probably would share your same stance if I were younger and didn't have kids. But the minds of children are extremely impressionable. They are sponges to everything around them. I feel it's important to try to fill their environments with as much positive stuff as possible. An R rated horror flick would not be on that list. In fact, I think that's pretty damn irresponsible, to expose a 5 year old to a movie like that. And nightmares really can screw up a kid. Not permanently, of course, but they can really mess with a kid's mind. They're not equipped to handle the same stimuli an adult can. I can still remember some of the nightmares I had when I was that age, can't you? They profoundly affect children and really shouldn't be treated lightly. to answer your question, yes i do remember some of those nightmares. that says something all by itself. i also remember feeling pretty stupid that it ever bothered me a couple years later. i always thought that was part of growing up. i still think the only thing you can really say in general is that it depends on a bunch of factors if the kid can handle it. in this particular case, i happen to have a lot of confidence in this mom, and i'm sure if it bothered her daughter at all to watch this movie, even though the little one really dug it, she would have gotten rid of it immediately. that's the last i'll say about it here. if you'd like to keep discussing, i'll send you a pm or something. Fair enough. I think we've stated each other's positions on this satisfactorily. |
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